In A Mirror Dimly

thoughts on life, love, faith, family . . .

and God, whom to know is life indeed.

5.17.2013

:. all glory to God .:

When one has a progressive brain disorder simple, everyday tasks become increasingly difficult. Getting dressed, getting in and out of bed, walking - movement in general - all becomes more challenging. Combine that with loss of strength and balance and a decline in cognitive ability and you have an idea of what life is like with Parkinson's disease.

It's no secret that the past few years have been hard for Benny. Putting in 14-hour days just trying to keep up at work; slowly realizing Parkinson's was making it impossible to do his job; and finally having no choice but to take early retirement - all that is quite dispiriting.
Hardest of all, perhaps, has been my life-long DIY-er watching his DIY-ing skills gradually slipping away. Benny has always been a master: refinishing, refurbishing, remodeling; you name it, and he did it. And did it perfectly. He still tackles many home improvement projects, but at a much slower, unsteadier pace.

A dozen years ago we added the pièce de résistance to our backyard garden: a lovely little pond complete with waterfall. It was a labor of love and it was beautiful.

** [Historical side-note: In 12 years, and with 6 grandchildren running around, only two people have ever fallen in said pond. Their names? Katie and Eisley . . . go figure.]

Fast-forward 10 years: our pond had become more trouble than we could handle. The past 2 years we've had broken pumps, out-of-control silt and algae, filters that refused to filter. It was a 300-gallon nightmare. Last month Benny decided the pond had to go. A huge job, but we knew we could enlist the help of our two super-strong boys.

Before we could even ask for their help, the cavalry arrived.

We have been a part of Westwind Church since last year. Like many churches, Westwind has a number of smaller groups (called "Connection Groups") you can join in order to connect on a more intimate level. These groups meet weekly in homes, fleshing out the message from the previous Sunday, getting to know one another better, praying for each other. When our little group got wind of this pond-filling project looming large before us, they did not hesitate. They signed on, signed up, and set a date.

Last Saturday, 20 people showed up at our house at 8am. Twenty people. They gave up one of the first perfect Saturdays of the spring to help us. And truth be told, Benny and I haven't exactly been stellar in attending our connection group the past 6 months. Some of those who came we hardly knew. But they came and they worked. They moved sand and pavers, they raked and tilled and mulched and swept. They replaced a rotten pillar. They even brought lunch.
It was a wonderful day, laboring together, and not only did we get a fresh start on our home, but 20 people are now tied more closely with an unbreakable bond.

And lest you say, "Well, of course they would do that for one of their own", let me be clear that this group, and Westwind as a whole, very actively serves many in the metro who are not a part of the church. They have helped the poor, the hungry, the homeless. They have tried to be the hands and feet of Jesus.
They can love like this because they are fully loved by God. They have chosen to align themselves with God's will, giving themselves over to the leadership of Jesus Christ in their lives. Jesus said, "I did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give My life as a ransom for many."
Christians have been known to get a bad rap, sometimes deservedly so. But when you find people who are being obedient to God and led by the Spirit of God, you see the Church as it was meant to be.

Need a church home? Want to be surrounded by people who will love you unconditionally? If you're anywhere near the Des Moines metro area, I suggest you visit Westwind. I don't think you'll be disappointed.

And our deepest, heart-felt thanks to our wonderful connection group. It is a pleasure doing life with you guys!!

2.27.2013

:. talk about indolence .:

Gavie and I were hanging out the other day, playing a game of 'ways we are different, ways we are alike'. I threw out the fact that he likes to run, and I don't. Without missing a beat (and with absolutely no malice) he said, "Granny, you are indolent."
[For all of you people too indolent to look it up in the dictionary, it means 'lazy'.]

This from the boy who a year ago could hardly read. This from the boy who had pretty much been given up on by his teacher last year. This from my dear, sweet 2nd-grade Gavie, who is now reading at a sixth grade level, thanks mainly to the wonderful people at Educational Resource Associates.

What a wonderful thing, to be able to read! It broadens not only your vocabulary, but your whole world.
And you know what? Gavie's right: I do trend towards being indolent.

2.26.2013

:. Orange ya glad it's not the 70's? .:

I was given this rescue chair a few months back. It was headed for the curb, but since it was in pretty good shape (other than the hideous out-dated orange velvet) I decided to give it a home. It remained stashed away in my garage until recently, when I finally found THE PERFECT FABRIC.
First off: EVERYTHING. There wasn't enough 'cush' for my tastes, and besides, I couldn't bear the thought of putting my beautiful new fabric on the old, worn-out foam and batting. So I took it down to the bare wood and springs.
You find such interesting things when tearing apart something that old (said the medical examiner as he finished up the autopsy. Just kidding.) I found a pair of tweezers, a pair of scissors, and THIS guy:
Such a McMillanish super stud. Oh, the 70's.
I didn't take a lot of step-by-step, but here I am midway through. New foam, new batting . . . and that gorgeous birdie fabric!! I used 4" thick foam for the back and seat cushion, and wrapped everything with a generous double layer of batting. CUSH-EE!!
And the finished chair:
And here it is in it's natural habitat:
A perfect addition to my little corner of the universe.

I am NOT by any means an expert upholsterer. This is only my second attempt, but with the limitless  information highway known as the internet, you can learn to do ANYthing. (I've often said if there was a tutorial online for brain surgery, I'd probably give it a whirl. IF I could find someone willing to let me try it out on them.)

And finally, I leave you with the CarLingHa family motto:
"Don't look too closely!"

1.26.2013

:. balance .:

A faithful reader of this blog (perhaps the only reader of this blog) gently reminded me the other day that it has been nearly a year since I've posted anything. [Thanks, mom.] I decided to log on just to have a look around. Imagine my chagrin when I realized how outdated the pics were on my sidebar, not to mention the fact that I had yet to post a snap of my littlest Thatcher love.
Yes, I've been negligent, lazy, uninspired, busy, careless . . . call it whatever you will.

I decided a few weeks ago that 'balance' would be my goal for 2013. Doing what needs to be done, making time for people I love, taking time to relax, a little of this, a little of that.
And in that vein, attempting to blog when and if I actually have something blog-worthy to share.

We'll see how it goes.

For now, please enjoy the updated pics of the wonderful little people in my life.

3.13.2012

:. things I know, things I love .:

A list (because that's the easiest post of all):
* daylight savings wreaks havoc on your circadian rhythms
* BUT, it's absolutely delightful to have sunshine into the evening hours
* this week, the forecast calls for sandal weather. Ladies, go get a fresh pedi and dig out those flips!
   (Sorry, Paige.)
* the Saldanhas living in Des Moines makes me over-the-top HAPPY
* little brother coming any moment also makes me ecstatic
* having SIX little people in my life is one of God's hugest blessings
Picture this:
* Liam demonstrating Irish step-dancing (my new favorite mental picture)
* Sloanie's rosebud lips (the stuff of dreams)
* Tate in full battle gear, sword drawn (bad guys tremble)
* Gavie, the sweetest, hardest-working first grader I know (he says Grandma Jean is lucky, because she's almost 100 - his favorite number!)
* Miss Eisley, the funniest, cutest almost-two year old in history (tutu included)
* everything God does in His kids' lives has its root in love. Perfect, unconditional, agape love
* because of the above, WE NEED NOT FEAR. EVER
* hearing those first birds of spring singing their lovely songs is unsurpassedly glorious
* we should all get off faceBOOK, and spend some face TIME with those we call friends
* because really, social media will probably be the death of real social interaction
* we are thankful for our new church family; such a wonderful group of like-minded people
* if you're in the vicinity, you really should check out westwindchurch.org
* and speaking of westwind, so great to see Chris and Kate helping to lead worship on Sunday mornings. Does a mom's heart good. (besides the fact they sound awesome together.)
 * and on that subject, just how DOES a mom get so blessed? Every one of my kids is an amazing adult:
my boys are hard-working, godly men, lovers of their families and obedient to the call of God on their lives.
my girls are hard-working, godly women, lovers of their families and also obedient to their God.

Aahh, I am so, so very blessed.